If I do say so myself, I’m excellent at solving a decor dilemma. That’s why people hire me.
Sometimes they’ve been wrestling with a decor dilemma for years and never seem to get it right, so by the time I come on the scene, they’re convinced there is no solution possible. But in over 20 years of doing design and decor for homes, I have never yet come across a decor dilemma I couldn’t solve.
However, there are some problems that come reeeeeeeealy close to being unsolvable. And often those revolve around having a married or co-habiting pair of clients with COMPLETELY opposite tastes and preferences.
That’s when I wish I had a psychiatry degree. Or at least a certificate from a community college in marriage counselling. Or experience as a basketball referee in high school…but being vertically challenged squashed that dream…
So back to the point.
I was recently hired by a client who bought my virtual decor services. She and her boyfriend have moved into a new apartment and they have different taste. Very different.
He loves “MANLY” things.
And maybe two blue things.
He came into the relationship with some of those things.
The things SHE loves are
Buttercup yellow things.
And some blue things.
She is FLUMMOXED.
She feels DESPAIR.
She wants to lighten things up and get rid of the brown stuff.
He won’t agree.
Alternatively, she wants to make the brown stuff white.
He won’t agree.
And I can’t say I blame him. If he gives in, he will feel like he’s living in a doll-house and never be comfortable.
But if they live with all that brown stuff, SHE will feel like she’s living in a man-cave, and will be depressed.
She wants her man AND her dream living room, but is terrified one of ’em has gotta go, and in every other respect he’s a keeper, even if he likes brown stuff….
Do you see the problem? If I can’t somehow bridge the décor gap for this couple, they are destined to live in disharmony, resenting each other, fighting over whether to eat beef or vegan, sabotaging each other and ultimately sending their screaming kids to a child psychologist!
Ok, well maybe I’m exaggerating just a touch. You wouldn’t be the first person who’s accused me of over-reacting.
But their living space WILL DEFINITELY affect how each of them feels about their home, which everyone should feel is a safe refuge from the crazy world outside the front door. If neither of them likes where they live, in my experience, it DOES negatively impact a relationship, and creates a general sense of dis-ease. And there are many health professionals who believe that if you live with dis-ease long enough, eventually it manifests itself in DISEASE.
So in fact, a beautifully decorated home is just what the doctor ordered!
See what I did there?! See how you can justify doing just about anything? Watch and learn, peepuhl, watch and learn…
Now I know you’re a smart cookie. So you’ll understand it when I say, my job is like being a mathematician.
I have to find the common denominator between these two people. Do you remember what that was? Go back and look again.
That’s ok. I’ll wait. I have NOTHING else to do right now….
*tapping toes* *examining finger nails* *glancing at watch*
Did you find it?
RIGHT! THE COMMON DENOMINATOR WAS BLUE!
Which is really lucky because this next part wouldn’t work so well if the common denominator was pink, which would look yucky with the brown leather sofa.
So the key here is to bring in lots of the blue, add a little brown, mix in some cream and the other colors in accessories, so it all comes together in perfect harmony and looks like it was planned that way all along…
…instead of what the dog did on the rug.
Sorry for that last mental image. But I had to make sure you got the point.
However the most important word in all this is give-and-take. Ok, three words.
Sheesh! Picky, picky.
But SHE and HE have to care about each other enough to want to make the other happy, which is when I can find a middle ground and bring it all home…so-to-speak.
Using a virtual mood board application, I demonstrated to my client how we can find a compromise and make the living room comfortable for both of them.
Now, you may notice one thing missing from the items that Manly Man brought with him: the ladder shelf unit. As I pointed out to him, just because it was in the living room in his old pad, doesn’t mean it has to go there in the new shared abode. So I’ll either help them find another place to put it in the apartment, or they may both have to compromise and sell it. It just wouldn’t work in the symmetry of this room. And luckily, they were both O.K. with that.
So if you have your own décor dilemma, whether you live with someone else or not, and need help bringing it all together, check out my online design services here. You’ll find options for in-person services like renovation management, kitchen design and decorating or simple consultations if you live in the Toronto area. Or, if you live far away, as long as you have a computer and a phone, we can work virtually, like I did for Manly Man and Girly Girl.
And if you’re starting from scratch, I can do a mood board for that too, like this one:
…so you can shop right from the comfort of your own home in your jammies or undies and no one ever has to know!
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